Where do babies come from? What is sex? Why are boys and girls different? These are all questions that can make parents stutter and stammer. Why is it so hard for us to talk to our children about sex? Is there an easy way? Most experts agree that keeping things simple and the lines of communication open are key elements to talking to children about sex, but even with those ideas in place, it’s not easy! Hopefully, here are some tips to make it a little less painful!
Do keep it simple. Start with minimal information, and wait for your child to ask another question. Young children might be satisfied with “mom has a special place in her body that grows a baby”, where an older child will want to know how the baby got there.
Decide with your partner what values you want to teach to your children. What do you want to teach, as a family? Abstinence, responsible premarital sex? When do you talk about birth control? For daughters, is using Birth Control Pills an option? If so, at what age? Are you willing to buy condoms for your sons?
Use outside resources. As mentioned in the previous blog, talk to your pediatrician. Also, books are a good option. Clergymen and school counselors can also be a great resource.
Keep your sense of humor. Let’s face it, sometimes things are just funny. Being able to laugh and not treat the subject as “taboo” does help keep the lines of communication open.