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Chores + Allowance – Should They Be Tied Together?

Juanita Bybee- PHP Office Manager

I personally think that kids need to have some simple and age appropriate chores that are not tied to money.  I think that they need to be some type of chores that a child can do to make them feel like they are a part of the family. There are always chores to be accomplished around the house that a child can take pride in, folding clothes, setting the table for dinner, putting away the dishes in the dishwasher, keeping their bed made and their toys picked up. Their room should be their sanctuary and keeping it neat and tidy will help them feel good about themselves. It also will prepare them for school when they will need to find things quickly, have homework and be ready to start the day.

I feel like allowance should be saved for extra things- age appropriate things. If they want a special toy or want to save up money for an outing to a movie with friends.  These are things that could help teach children patience and how to save and manage money. I do not feel like children should have to pay for their own lunch tickets or clothing …things that are the parents’ responsibility- of course.

I think this is where parents can help children start to take charge of their own personal self esteem.  A child will not know how to pull themselves up out of the mud if they are never in the mud.  A child will never know how to push themselves if there are no expectations placed on them.  I think this is where the rubber meets the road.  If we challenge our children and keep raising the bar, they will begin to challenge themselves and know for themselves that they are more than capable and can accomplish anything they put their mind to.  But it starts at home with simple and meaningful tasks, and probably a lot of whinning.  What are your thoughts?

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