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Juanita Bybee- PHP Office Manager

I personally think that kids need to have some simple and age appropriate chores that are not tied to money.  I think that they need to be some type of chores that a child can do to make them feel like they are a part of the family. There are always chores to be accomplished around the house that a child can take pride in, folding clothes, setting the table for dinner, putting away the dishes in the dishwasher, keeping their bed made and their toys picked up. Their room should be their sanctuary and keeping it neat and tidy will help them feel good about themselves. It also will prepare them for school when they will need to find things quickly, have homework and be ready to start the day.

I feel like allowance should be saved for extra things- age appropriate things. If they want a special toy or want to save up money for an outing to a movie with friends.  These are things that could help teach children patience and how to save and manage money. I do not feel like children should have to pay for their own lunch tickets or clothing …things that are the parents’ responsibility- of course.

I think this is where parents can help children start to take charge of their own personal self esteem.  A child will not know how to pull themselves up out of the mud if they are never in the mud.  A child will never know how to push themselves if there are no expectations placed on them.  I think this is where the rubber meets the road.  If we challenge our children and keep raising the bar, they will begin to challenge themselves and know for themselves that they are more than capable and can accomplish anything they put their mind to.  But it starts at home with simple and meaningful tasks, and probably a lot of whinning.  What are your thoughts?

Comments on: "Chores + Allowance – Should They Be Tied Together?" (4)

  1. Erin Swilling said:

    Like Jan, we do allowance, along with expected household chores, at our house too. My three children, ages 7, 7, and 10 are expected to do such things as clean their rooms, take over dishes, help with laundry, feed pets, etc. Chores with the potential to earn allowance money include vacumming, dusting, cleaning bathrooms, yard work , snow shoveling, etc. With the kids earning their own money I am hoping that teaches them the value of the dollar, and how to save up for something you want.

  2. Downeychick said:

    My children had chores to do, and also received an allowance, but one wasn’t tied to the other. They had chores they had to do, and they understood that they had to be done in a timely manner and was their contribution to the well-being of the family. I felt they needed some money of their own, to learn to manage. When they were younger, I gave them 3 containers….one for saving, one for spending, one for donating to charitable causes (church, Red Cross, etc). When we would go shopping, it helped tremendously if they had their own money to spend, and then they had make the decision if they wanted a small item, or save for a bigger item. I am proud to say that both of my children are good “money managers”, much better than their mother 🙂

  3. Natalie Pique said:

    I totally agree with you, Juanita. I do not give either one of my children an allowance and never have. I believe that they should help out around the house with everyday chores such as setting the table, clearing the table, and keeping their rooms clean. On Saturday mornings, I post a list in the kitchen for things for them to do like brushing the dog, vacuuming the stairs, and “extra” things like that. They know that once they get these chores done, the weekend is theirs!

    Several times my kid’s mentioned that their friends get an allowance and “it’s not fair!” My reply is always the same: They live under our roof, eat good food at the table, have clothes and live very good lives. They need to contribute just like their dad and I do everyday.

    On the other hand, if there is a big chore, such as raking, shoveling snow, or helping build a fence…we agree on a price and they earn their extra money doing these jobs.

    • Jan Jones said:

      I had a WHOLE BUNCH of kids during my parenting days as I had my own kids plus I had foster kids. The oldest kids being 15 and the youngest being 10. We also had a 3 year old that they had to help when I was at work.

      Each child was given a basic allowance each week plus they earned extra spending money for completing their chores.
      We rotated a chore list each month and since their allowance was such a minimum, they all got their extra work done. I was always glad the chores were done. It kept me out of the middle and since the chores were rotated, no one seemed to complain as much.The chore list had to be checked off when completed on a daily basis.

      My adult children still tell stories about the only boy in the house and how he paid people to finish his chores!!! They have continued the same routine with my grandkids! Seems to work good!!

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