The EMOTIONAL ROLLER COASTER DYNAMIC IS VERY MUCH A PART OF HAVING A FAMILY MEMBER WITH A DISABILITY!
At first when a diagnosis is made, The SHOCK SYNDROME is very evident. Everyone walks around not even knowing what step to take or what emotion to feel, sometimes not even being able to talk about the problem.
SHOCK is often followed by DENIAL where the family wants to simply deny that that problem really exists.
Closely following the DENIAL is often ANGER . This can be expressed in inappropriate ways. ANGER is often the GUILT AND DEPRESSION over the situation which seems to be turned inside out into a destructive emotion.
Once past the ANGER emotion the family may turn to GUILT, should have and could have become the thoughts of the day! This is again a destructive force which must be passed through in order to help the family come through the roller coaster ride. This can be a time of SEARCHING for an answer, searching for a “FIX IT” and searching for the power to accept the disability.
Once these emotions are passed through, TRUE ACCEPTANCE can be transformed into a positive force for a family. The work can be done to help the situation and work can be done to really help the person with the disability. JUST HOLDING ON TIGHT TO THE ROLLER COASTER RIDE AND ACCEPTING ALL THESE EMOTIONS WILL TRULY BE THE CONSTRUCTIVE FORCE TO CONQUER THE RIDE , leading to a successful and safe stop at the end of the journey.